Wow, what a long time it is since I posted on this blog! The reasons do have something to do with resilience in that all sorts of challenges have been going on in my life and those of my nearest and dearest so I decided to take my own advice – know what is REALLY important and absolutely must have my attention and let go, for a while, of other things I want to do but just don’t have the capacity for at the moment. Let go, and not beat myself up about it.
Anyway, that got me thinking. A good topic for a blog post. We live in a fast paced, complex, chaotic world with multiple demands on us and we all need to be resilient to cope with what life throws at us. Some people are naturally more resilient than others but there are strategies we can use to strengthen our ability to cope and thrive, even in the most difficult of circumstances. And I thought this quote summed up the positive message beautifully:
Life’s not about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain. ©Vivian Greene
1. Work at it!
Being resilient doesn’t happen by accident – it needs working at!
2. Notice and change your thinking
Your thoughts stimulate your emotions, which in turn drive your behaviour. We all have that little gremlin that tells us we are not good enough, that we have messed up etc. Catch yourself and you can change that thought process into something positive. I have a simple but brilliant ‘tool’ for doing this – if you’d like a copy please email me at email@example.com.
You get what you focus on – if you think everything is awful you’ll find plenty of things to reinforce that view. Look for the positive and you’ll find that too. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.
3. Spend time with people who energise you
Develop your network of people who buoy you up and make you feel strong and happy. Don’t join in with the ‘pity party’ goers and be dragged down by negative energy.
4. Understand that change is a process
When something changes in your life recognise that it takes time to adapt psychologically and physically. Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross identified a series of emotions we need to work through, especially when the change is negative. It’s natural to feel denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance. Give yourself permission to feel sad, angry etc yet also recognise when you need to move on from this.
5. Breathing exercises or meditation
As part of your routine, especially when you have a lot on your plate, take time to sit quietly and breath in and out deeply a few times, or to meditate.
I hope those are helpful to you and look forward to hearing your ideas as well. Do post your thoughts below.
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